Understanding Filipino Women 101
Thereâs no doubt that Filipino women, like women from Russia and former Soviet Union territories, are one of the most sought-after wife material in the world. Many men are willing to suffer the loneliness of long-distance relationships and spend a lot of money just to be with one of them.
If youâve ever had experience finding and dating Filipino women, you will know that getting started is really easy. You only need to sign up with a big dating website like Cherry Blossoms, create a profile and talk to the women who have active profiles there. Hopefully in a few months youâll be telling people that youâre âIn a Relationshipâ or âMarriedâ.
However, the experience of many men in the past tells us that while itâs easy to find a Filipina, finding a decent woman who will truly become your life partner is more challenging.
As it is, there are Filipino women out there who date foreign men for a living, or are looking for sugar daddies to support them while having other boyfriends at the same time. You will also find women who believe theyâre Godâs gift to men just for being a Filipina.
As a Filipino woman myself, Iâm quite aware about how these things work. (The good thing about most Filipinos is that they typically donât keep secrets from fellow Filipinos.)
In this rather long article, I will show you how you can find yourself a decent Filipina woman without ever going through the hassle of meeting a highly undesirable one.
You might think that youâll never get scammed or be burned because youâre smart, but the fact is, when it comes to love, intelligence almost always takes the backseat.
What Do Filipino Women Think Of White Men?
In the Philippines, itâs very common to see white men with Filipino women. Couples come in different shapes and sizes. There are May-December couples, long nail and short pin couples (in terms of height), etc.
You might be wondering why of all the women in the word, Filipino women seem to be the most open-minded about marrying men from other countries, even if the men are old enough to be their fathers. So what do Filipino women think of most foreign men?
Well, it really depends on the kind of Filipino woman youâre talking to and where sheâs coming from.
Women who come from families that have less in life (the ones that are dirt poor) often see the âKanoâ (American), the âputiâ (white guy), and the ânigroâ (black guy) as their ticket to a better way of life. And so they end up draining the guyâs money by making him pay for everything, from meals to home repairs. Theyâre also the type who would ask for small amounts of money per month from their boyfriends.
But there are also women who are NOT looking for ATM cash machines, but rather are looking for someone to save them from overbearing parents, and thus typical foreign man becomes their knight in shining armor. (In the Philippines, the children are almost required to live with their parents until they get married.)
Women who are reasonably educated and have jobs typically think foreign men are better alternatives to Filipino men, who can be philanderers, drug addicts, and broke bums in the same breath. (Iâm not saying that all Filipino men are bad, Iâm only saying – and this is just my opinion – that most Filipino men donât set high standards for themselves and donât know how to handle their money.)
There are also women who think they donât mesh well with Filipino men and believe that only foreign men will be able to understand and appreciate them. These women are usually single mothers who are raising children alone. If they donât have children, theyâre older women who have had relationships with Filipino men that didnât work out, or have never had a boyfriend in their lives for some reason or another.
Between the four groups of women, I think that the last two groups of women are decent enough for you to be in a ârealâ relationship with them. Sure, they might not earn as much as women from first-world countries (the typical salary in the Philippines is $200 to$500 per month), but theyâre more family-oriented and more caring of their husbands.
How To Know Where She Belongs
When youâre out on a dating site, especially a big dating site like Cherry Blossoms, the most difficult thing to do is to know if the woman youâre talking to is a decent one. Anyone can tell you anything on the Internet, and since youâre far away, thereâs no way of knowing if sheâs telling the truth.
However,you can tell if a woman is a prized catch or not if you do the following things:
1. Check her family background
I like to say that anyone whoâs looking forward to dating a Filipino woman should first check her family out. Why? Because the typical Filipino family is so close (women are almost forced to live with their parents until they get married), itâs impossible for a woman from the Philippines to not be influenced by her family.
So, if youâre talking to a woman for the first time, ask about her family. How many are they? What do her father and mother do? How are they as a family? You can almost always tell something about her by the way she talks about her family and what she tells you about them.
2. Check if she graduated from college or university
Unlike in the United States and Europe where people finish their education via student loans, in the Philippines parents are expected to send their children through college. Children, on the other hand, are expected to finish their education, get a job, then help the family by helping pay for the bills or paying for some siblingâs education, but all this really depends on the womanâs financial status.
You can be sure that if a Filipino woman graduated from college she has enough respect for her parents and herself. Sure, not all schools are the same, but they cost time and money all the same. In case you were wondering, the top 3 schools in the Philippines are University of the Philippines, Ateneo de Manila University and La Salle University.
3. Check out if she has a job
Like anywhere else in the world, thereâs a big world of difference between the character of bums and of people who hold jobs. Donât believe what they tell you that there are no jobs in the Philippines â there are jobs. However, the typical pay is too low, while the really good jobs are usually reserved for people who are highly -talented (or who know a lot of people in high places).
A Filipino woman with a job, especially a relatively high-paying one, is highly unlikely to milk your money because she would have her pride intact. As of this writing, the most lucrative jobs in the Philippines are call center jobs and home-based freelancing jobs.
Are You Committing These Filipina Dating Mistakes?
Thereâs no doubt that Filipino women are the most desired âwife materialâ women in the world. The statistics prove this point: the divorce rate among Filipino-American couples is lower than the national divorce rate in the Philippines.
And of course, there are many foreign men who are happily married to Filipino women. But if youâre still not finding the right Filipina, meaning youâve been jumping from one Filipina to another, or are still not seriously dating a Filipina, then there might some things you are doing wrong.
So, what are some of the mistakes you can commit while trying to find a Filipina wife? Here are some of them:
* You rushed to be with a Filipina
Rushing into a relationship with a Filipino woman – or any woman for that matter â almost always guarantees that youâre going to be heartbroken sooner than later. That said, take the time to get to know a Filipina woman. Remember, this is the rest of your life weâre talking about.
Hurrying will only make you blind to the kind of woman she really is â whether or not sheâs realor if sheâs out there just to scam you.
* Committing without even meeting in person
One of the most stupid things anyone can ever do is to commit to people online with people theyâve never met in person, but this has happened before and itâs still happening now. There are couples that ended in breakups because the real person didnât live up to their expectations (or the woman was wrong about when sheâll have her menstruationď).
* You didnât contact many women
The dating game (whether online or offline) is basically a contact-and-numbers game, meaning that you have a greater chance of success, i.e., that of finding a very good woman, when you have a great number of prospects. That said, when youâre at the beginning of you search, makes sure youâre at a place where itâs possible to be in contact with many women.
I would suggest that you check out Cherry Blossoms dating. For one thing, at any given time, there are around 50,000 active women which you can narrow down by age. Also, it offers visa support services, which is very important when youâre about to bring her to your country. (Most embassies require you to prove that you have a ârealâ relationship before issuing a visa.)
* You visited the wrong websites
There are men who look for Filipino women on Craigslist or Facebook. While these websites are legitimate avenues for meeting people, the thing is, the response rate can be dismal.
If you go through some ads on Manila Craigslist by men looking for women, youâll know that the response rate is bad. Many are repeat posters who complain about the lack of decent Filipino women who reply to them.
As for Facebook, you will find that Filipino women on Facebook are not inclined to be chummy with strangers. This is especially true after reports of people being murdered by people they met on Facebook surfaced in the media.
But aside from the low response rate, however, it would be more difficult to document your relationship for her visa later on.
* Falling for Filipino dating scams
Although the majority is decent women who are sincerely looking for men to be their life partners, there are Filipino women out there who are out there to scam unsuspecting men. You might think that youâre too smart to be scammed but the truth is that so many smart and educated yet vulnerable men have been conned of their money in the past.
The rule of thumb to avoid any scam is simply not to send any money no matter how heartwrenching her story is. Most professional scammers organize their online boyfriends in a record, where they make notes on each entry on what they talked about with a particular boyfriend, how much money he sent, and for what.